2011 Each on her own camino. Mary Elaine Miedel born January 26, 2011; Gloria at Marty
Savanick’s stores, her birthday group, the Goshen College sisters; the
Lancaster Book Group, Elvin Kraybill; Menno House in New York City, El Camino
de Santiago; Carlos and Elisa Diaz, Luis
and Patricia Sarmiento, Rob R. Schlabach (1945-2011).
Following my
leaving Mennonite publishing and Gloria’s teaching in 2009, we did a number of projects
and travels which I will note in this chapter, especially Gloria’s projects. But
let’s start with a visit to the Wooster Hospital where our granddaughter Mary
Elaine Miedel was born on January 26, 2011. As I post this in 2016, Mary is about the enter Kindergarten this Fall, and entertains us with her humor, goodwill, and imagination. In our great room she has opened up her own restaurant (menu patterned after the Oak Grove Eatery in nearby Wooster), with her favorite diner, cook, and consultant her grandmother Gloria.
By the fall
of 2009 Gloria started working for Marty Savanick and her family who had
several stores in the area. Gloria worked several days a week at Collections by
Marty in Scottdale and in Donegal. She and Marty were good friends, and the
work was a good fit her interest and schedule. Martha and her husband Reuben
(1995, 2002) had started the stores in the 80s, and they had grown until as of
this writing they also included floral shops, the former Demuth’s, in Scottdale
and Connellsville. In the same way, the Provident Bookstore used to be where
she bought gifts for her kids, now she had a store to buy gifts for her
grandchildren; she is still working with Marty until a month before we moved to Ohio in July of 2015.
Gloria was also a member of several women’s groups which
provided much enjoyment to her. The oldest one was the one she referred to as
her birthday group. A cohort of Scottdale women would get together for dinner at
a restaurant chosen by the one having a birthday. I believe this group was
going already before we went to Venezuela in the early 80s and consisted of
Alta Dezort, Jennifer Hiebert, Marty Savanick, Marlene Schwab, Ruth Scott, and
Audra Shenk. I may be missing a few members, but this mostly Mennonite group stayed
together irrespective of the trials and tribulations of their congregations and
husband’s employment; many of them were related to Mennonite publishing at some
point.
A more recent group Gloria joined
since her post-teaching years was the Scottdale Mennonite women’s monthly meeting
called Comfort Zone. This monthly group headed by Ilse Reist included the
traditional sewing circle activities, but Ilse had added a cultural component
of arts and public affairs, often bringing in speakers.
Another group with whom Gloria met every year or two was her
Goshen College friends or sisters as they called themselves. These were the
women friends she knew during Gloria’s two years of Kulp Hall living 1966 to
1969. The group met in places such as Florida, North Carolina, Colorado, and at
their own homes. In 2007 Gloria hosted the group for a few days, getting pleasure
in showing them our new house and also taking them to various sites such as
Fallingwater. The group consisted of Judy Beechy of Goshen Indiana, Phyllis Weaver
Crouch of Peoria, Iowa, Judy Noe Gingerich of Goodlettsville, Tennessee; Cynthia
Winegard Peterson of Pella, Iowa; and Lucy Yoder Weber of Lancaster,
Pennsylvania.
A third group Gloria joined in 2009 was a Scottdale book
group which was organized by Becky Halfhill, a high school librarian (think
against stereotype, an extraverted librarian) with whom Gloria worked at
Connellsville from many years. Her husband was John Halfhill, our Southmoreland
superintendent who had retired in about 2010.
Becky also worked for Marty Savanick part-time and was a civic activist about
town whether acting on the stage at the Geyer Theater, promoting causes, or running
for office. Aside from books, part of the distinction of this group was to
provide a kind of safe house for small-town political and social liberals. Politically,
our area still carried a strong Democratic Party registration advantage, a
legacy of the coal miner and industrial union days, but most of our neighbors were
socially conservative. Our then Presidential candidate Barach Obama incorrectly
declared in 2008, we were bitter (that’s the inaccurate part), and hanging on
to our guns and religion (on that he was accurate).
I believe she may have
joined this group about the same time she dropped out of the Lancaster-based book
group which I had been a part of since the mid-eighties. In the mid-80s John A. Lapp sent a letter noting
that he, Elvin Kraybill, Don Kraybill and Carl Keener had talked of
"developing a group of people who would meet periodically to discuss the
great questions of life." He invited us to the first meeting which was
to be at the Alice and John Lapp residence, Lapp said "Elvin was mightily
moved by Allan Bloom's The Closing of the American Mind, so we are
suggesting that be the focus of the first meeting. Don has volunteered to
direct the discussion." Others who attended that first meeting were
Merle and Phyllis Good, Urbane and Gwen Peachey, and Emerson and Ruth Lesher.
Carl and Gladys Keener soon brought James and Gloria Rosenberger and whoever happened
to be the State College pastor at the time.
This is not an attempt to give the full record, as others
came and went at various times. The group met twice a year for a half-day
including a meal and generally discussed one novel and one non-fiction, often
one Mennonite related and one of general interest. As I write this, the group
met at the Rosenberger’s house in State College on April 26, 2014, and the two
books were David and Goliath by Malcolm
Gladwell, and The Brothers: John Foster Dulles,
Allen Dulles and their Secret World War by Stephen Kinzer; surprisingly
most of the originals were still in attendance over a quarter century later.
Several years ago, Elvin Kraybill probably expressed many of our sentiments in
an e-mail when he said “the book group has enabled me to continue long-running
discussions in the dorm that were a highlight of my college years, when we
explored faith, tradition, ethics, politics and community. With this group, I
have read many books I otherwise would have missed.”
Gloria’s
other big project was a mother-daughter pilgrimage, the 500-mile El Camino de Santiago which she and
Elizabeth did for a month in the summer of 2011. They started in Roncesvalles
in France and walked across northern Spain to Santiago de Compostela, staying
at hostels in the evening. This was an amazing adventure of physical and
spiritual endurance and their story to tell. Elizabeth created a large
illustrated photo journal book of the walk which she gave to Gloria at
Christmas of 2011. I joined them for the last 100 miles, now an outsider trying
to appreciate their daily rituals, close bonding and Camino philosophies they
had internalized during the month. 1. Each is on her own camino. 2. We are
where we are supposed to be. 3. Focus on one day at a time, dear Jesus. Okay, I
added the “dear Jesus.” I was very proud of them.
While the
women were on the Camino I spent two
weeks going to southern Spain to visit Carlos Diaz and Elisa Molina in Seville
and then spending several days in Madrid (the Prado never disappoints), and
then northwest for a few days with the Luis and Patricia Sarmiento family in Marin,
a little seacoast town by Pontevedra. These people were old Venezuelan friends (1982)
who had found their way to Spain. The Sarmientos had developed a vigorous
Mennonite church in Venezuela and now retired to Spain, and the Diaz family had
developed a bookstore business in Seville; both were generous hosts and being with
them helped revisit and bring closure to our Venezuela days. During my travels
on Spain’s fast trains and comfortable buses, I read Cervantes’ Don Quixote de la Mancha until I lost it
at a Metro station in Madrid.
We did other traveling projects in 2011 within the United States. In May (9-24)
we spent two weeks managing things at the Menno House in Manhattan while
Elizabeth’s friend Rachel Smith was on vacation. The mornings involved taking care
of registrations and room changes (maid service). A memorable afternoon was
visiting AmeriCore volunteer Peter Koontz’s community garden project in the
Bronx, and one evening we went to see one of my favorite plays, King Lear (with
Derek Jacobi) at the BAM (Brooklyn Academy of Music) theater: “Pray, do
not mock me./I am a very foolish fond old man,…/And to deal plainly/I fear I am
not in my perfect mind.”
Rachel Smith had some fix-up projects at the 19th Street house
in the Gramercy where you can find all kinds of little shops: hardwares, dry
cleaning, grocers, bakers, and cobblers, a veritable 1950s small-town America
thriving in post-modern New York City. Meanwhile in our own Kingview neighborhood
of Scottdale our last cobbler Harry Echard died on February
7, 2011; a year earlier we had taken him some fresh eggs on his 90th
birthday. Alas, a year later our last Everson cobbler closed his shop, so I
suppose we’ll need to go to New York City for shoe repair. Thank you, Wal-Mart.
We also had time for long walks around lower Manhattan, including walking
across Brooklyn Bridge. Heading uptown we often passed Norman Vincent Peale’s
Marble Collegiate Church at the corner of 5th and 29th
Street. Both my mother Mattie and Gloria’s mother Berdella were regular readers
of Peale’s Guideposts magazine of positive and hopeful stories. Peale died in
1998, but then I thought I saw him resurrected on September 9, 2011, when I
went to see the televangelists Joel and Victoria Osteen at the Consol Energy
Center in Pittsburgh. The power of positive thinking seemed alive and well in
America. Meanwhile, as I post this, I note that one of Peale’s parishioners the
businessman Donald Trump is running for President of the United States.
The Fall had a melancholy note with the death of my cousin
Rob R. Schlabach on October 30 in San Pedro Sula, Honduras; cause of death was an aggressive cancerous tumor in his
head. Rob was a minister in the Berlin Northeast District and a leader in the
Ohio Sustainable Agriculture movement, especially in the Holmes County area. Of
all my Amish cousins, we knew Rob the best, no doubt for having been neighbors
of Gloria’s family and his father Roy was my mother Mattie’s favorite relative.
In his younger years Rob wrote a moral tract against bed courtship Ein
Risz in der Mauer (1980), and he also helped to write an Amish
catechism-type booklet called The Truth and Work (1983).
I had a good visit with Rob in September when he came back
from his first cancer treatment in Honduras. I suppose it’s one of the
contradictions of human existence that Rob who was surrounded by close family,
neighbors and church all his life allowed himself to be taken in by a fraudulent
out-of-state doctor and died quite isolated in a foreign country. Anyway, Rob’s
body was returned, given a church burial, and is now in our Creator's good
care. Gott lobe und danke.
We did other family expeditions that year with a summer week (August 6-13)
at Lakeside along Lake Erie. Paul and Carol and their families spend every
summer there, so an enjoyable part of their lives. Then in the fall, October 20-24, we went to visit Sarah
and Kevin Kehrberg in Asheville, North Carolina, where they had settled. What a
fascinating region with the many Thomas Wolfe (Look Homeward Angel) sites, but the greatest joy was to see our
writer niece, her musician scholar husband, and their curious children in their
home, church, and cultural setting.
Between Christmas
and New Year, Gloria, Elizabeth and I took our own curious grandchildren Sadie
and Aaron on a train trip to Washington D.C. The Capital Limited makes a direct
run from Connellsville to Union Station where we stayed on the Mall. We visited
many of the capital sites, but the kids had been reading Abraham Lincoln
stories, so the tour of the Ford’s Theatre stood out. On the final morning, our
little grandson Aaron pulled some money out of his pocket and offered to buy
the breakfast for all of us; I knew some transitions were coming on.
Most of this chapter comes from my 2011 “Items of
Interest”personal file, datebook, and memory. The Lancaster book group origins
come from a John A. Lapp letter, October 14, 1987; Elvin Kraybill’s comments
come from an e-mail to the group October 13,
2012. The King Lear lines are from Act IV, Scene vii. The Rob R. Schlabach paragraph is from a longer e-mail I sent
to the family 10/30/11.